10 Tips to Reset Your Pleasure

Today I'm sharing 10 tips that you can use anytime, anywhere, to reset your pleasure! Join me as I give you the benefits of resetting your nervous system, rejuvenating your energy, and prioritizing your pleasure with simple practices. Whether it’s getting out of your head and into your body, listening to your needs, or scheduling a sex date, these tips will help you reconnect with your true source of power – your pleasure. If you’ve been conditioned to think that pleasure is something you can only experience after checking off every item on your to-do list, this episode is here to change that narrative. Pleasure is not a reward you earn, it’s the essential support that nourishes you in your daily life. 

1. Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Body

Pleasure lives in our bodies, but stress, worry, and anxiety thrive in our heads. The first step to resetting your pleasure is to shift your awareness out of your head and into your body. Your body has a current of pleasure running through it at all times – it’s just a matter of tuning in. Three very simple, and very profound, tools will support you in coming out of your head and into your body:  

1. Your awareness or sense of “I”
2. Breath
3. Sensations

So I want you to take a deep breath and let your awareness sink down, moving from your mind into your body. Then once you have done that, start to notice how you feel, tune into what your body is experiencing, and just be present with whatever is there. Maybe you can feel your body against a surface, tension in your neck, or a feeling of expansion in your chest. By breathing and becoming aware of these sensations, you have brought yourself out of your head and into your body. 

Then you can notice where there is pleasure inside of you. Breathe into that current, and let yourself feel the aliveness that’s already within you. This practice of coming into your body can be done anywhere – whether you’re at work, in the car, or sitting at home. By simply shifting your focus inward, you can activate your pleasure anytime you need a reset. I invite you to play with this and be attuned to this pleasure when you need it most!

2. Listen to Your Body’s Needs

Pleasure cannot thrive when our basic needs are unmet. Are you thirsty? Hungry? Do you need to go to the bathroom? Sometimes, it’s the simplest things that get overlooked, especially when we’re busy. Take a moment to check in with your body and ask, “What do I need right now?” It’s hard to experience pleasure when you’re running on empty or ignoring what your body is asking for. And let’s not forget rest. Rest is vital for your pleasure to flow. If you’re feeling exhausted, give yourself permission to rest. This can look like:

• Reading a book in the sunshine
• Taking a nap
• Sleeping 8 hours at night
• Doing yoga nidra for a deep rest state
• Watching Netflix throughout the afternoon
• Drinking tea for 5-10 minutes
• Having a chill day at home

Whatever rest looks like for you, take that space. When you honor your body’s needs, you open up space for deeper, more nourishing pleasure to enter your life.

3. Don’t Bypass What’s True

Pleasure isn’t about slapping a happy face over what’s real or using false positivity. True pleasure comes when we meet ourselves exactly where we are. If you’re feeling stressed, sad, or angry, don’t bypass those emotions – lean into them. If you did tip 1 and you realized that an emotion is present within your body, allow yourself to lean into it. Express that emotion (alone and in private) whether that is screaming, shaking, punching, crying, or any other way that this emotion needs to be expressed. 

When you honor what’s true for you, you create space for pleasure on the other side. Instead of pushing away discomfort, see it as a portal that, when fully felt and expressed, can lead you into deeper and more authentic pleasure. This can also rewire your neural networks and clear space in your nervous system. Then in that space, you can rewire your baseline to be one of pleasure rather than the emotions or sensations you were feeling before. 

4. Activate Your Senses

Activating our senses is what I mean when I say “pleasure is a tool”. Our senses are powerful portals for experiencing pleasure. You can activate the pleasure through your senses by:

• Seeing something beautiful around you
• Touching your skin or giving yourself (or the people around you) a hug
• Smelling your favorite essential oil
• Listening to a podcast or music
• Savouring a delicious meal
  
  

When we consciously engage our senses, we invite pleasure into our experience in a way that’s simple yet deeply fulfilling. Activating your senses can instantly shift your energy and bring you back into a state of pleasure. Remember, pleasure is available to you in every moment, you just have to be willing to receive it.

5. Get Early Morning Light for a Dopamine Boost

This tip might surprise you, but getting early morning light is a game changer for your pleasure and overall well-being. Morning light boosts your dopamine levels, which are directly tied to feeling good and motivated. Step outside, look up at the sky and let the light hit your eyes for:

• 5-10 minutes if it’s sunny
• 20 minutes if it's cloudy
• 30 minutes if it's a dark day

Don’t have your eyes shaded but don’t stare directly at the sun! This simple act can regulate your nervous system, boost your mood, and set the tone for a more pleasurable day. Getting outside first thing in the morning also helps regulate your circadian rhythm, making you feel more awake and energized during the day and helping you sleep better at night. It’s a small, simple pleasure that can have a huge impact on how you feel.

6. Move Your Body

There is so much pleasure available when you move your body. Whether it’s:

• Dancing
• Stretching
• Taking a walk
• Jumping up and down

Movement helps shake up stagnant energy and reconnects you with your aliveness. Put on your favorite song and let your body move in whatever way feels good – there are no rules here, just follow your joy. Your body was made to move, and when you do, you’ll feel the pleasure that’s always waiting for you.

7. Engage Your Voice and Make Sound

Sound is a powerful tool for resetting your pleasure. You can hum, sing, or let out an audible sigh – whatever feels good. When we use our voice, we stimulate the vagus nerve, which helps regulate our nervous system and brings us into a state of calm. Making sound also helps release trapped energy, emotions, and stress – which creates space for more pleasure.

I would say that most people have conditioning around not making "weird" noises. But don’t worry about how you sound or whether you’re doing it “right,” just let whatever sound wants to come out, come out. Make it playful, make it loud, make it soft – just make it yours. You can also bring this into the bedroom to enhance your pleasure. 

8. Breathe Into Your Pussy

Pussy loves attention and one of the simplest ways to reset your pleasure is to bring your awareness down to her. This isn’t about touching (yet) it’s about connecting. Breathe deeply and send your breath down to your Pussy. Notice any sensations, even if they’re subtle. You might notice that you don’t feel much to begin with and that is okay. Even if you feel shame or shyness, keep using this practice. Your Pussy holds so much power, and simply bringing your awareness there can be incredibly energizing and pleasurable. This is a secret pleasure hack you can do anytime, anywhere whether you’re:

• Driving
• Sitting in a meeting
• Standing in line at the grocery store

This is one of my secret superpowers. The more you bring your attention to Pussy, the more she will respond, awakening the pleasure and power that’s always within you!

9. Embracing Self-Pleasure

Now, let’s take it a step further. Self-pleasure is a powerful way to reset your energy and connect with your pleasure. This doesn’t have to be about reaching an orgasm – though if it happens, amazing! The goal here is to simply enjoy the experience of touching yourself in whatever way feels good. You can even massage the outside of your Pussy with lube or oil.

If touching your Pussy feels too vulnerable or intense, start with something gentler, like massaging your thighs or breasts. Let your hands explore and follow what feels good without any agenda. Self-pleasure is a practice of reconnecting with your body, your power, and your pleasure.

10. Plan a Sex Date

Finally, make a date for sex with your partner. Yes, schedule it. Planning a sex date doesn’t make it any less sexy – it makes it intentional. It can even give you a chance to be more flirty throughout the day. Set the mood, light candles, or simply lock the bedroom door while the kids watch a movie. It doesn’t have to be fancy, just make it happen. Life can get so full so it’s difficult to rely on spontaneous sex. Connecting intimately with your partner can be a beautiful way to reset and recharge. Prioritize that time together and let your bodies do the talking. Your pleasure isn’t just important, it’s vital.

Reset Your Pleasure Anytime, Anywhere

I hope you feel ALL the pleasure from these 10 tips. These practices aren’t just about feeling good…they’re about reconnecting with the core of who you are. As you move through these tips, remember that pleasure is your birthright. It’s available to you anytime, anywhere—you just have to be willing to choose it. So, take these tips and make them your own. Here’s to a season of juicy, delicious, and deeply nourishing pleasure! If you loved this post, share it with a friend who needs to hear this message.