My Best Advice for Dating, Relationships, & the Aftermath of the US Election

In dating, relationships, or even navigating the complexities of politics, it’s easy to feel like life is happening to you. But what if the power to thrive doesn’t lie outside of you, but within? This blog dives into three core tenets of Pussy-Centered Living that can transform your experience: Inner Power, Emotional Alchemy, and Radical Self-Responsibility. Learn practical “do’s and don’ts” and tips to reclaim your strength, align with your truth, and create a life led by pleasure, desire, and authenticity.

Tapping Into Your Inner Power

Your true strength lies within. While external circumstances—like disappointing dates, relationship struggles, or political outcomes—might feel overwhelming, they do not define you. Inner power is about grounding into the stable, unbreakable core of who you are. But true inner power doesn’t happen in isolation, it’s also supported by the strength of community. Pussy desires union and sisterhood. While personal empowerment starts within, the collective power of a community amplifies it.

Do’s and Don’ts for Accessing Inner Power:

• DON’T: Fixate on external circumstances. Focusing on things outside of your control, such as how others behave or the state of the world, will only drain your energy.
• DO: Turn inward. Shift your attention to your internal experience, grounding into your body and sensations.
  

Tips & Tools for Tapping Into Inner Power:

1. Drop into your body: Notice the physical sensations in your body, especially when you feel triggered. Instead of spiraling in your thoughts, ask yourself: What am I feeling in my body right now?
2. Anchor into pleasure: Reconnect with your pussy and pleasure. Pleasure is a powerful portal that soothes your nervous system and restores your sense of safety and trust.
3. Lean into your inner masculine: This aspect of yourself provides strength, protection, and stability. By cultivating a relationship with your inner masculine, you can feel grounded and unshakable.
4. Ground in safety: Power and safety go hand in hand. When you cultivate a sense of safety within yourself—through embodiment practices, grounding, and connection to your body—you become unstoppable.
   
   

Using Emotional Alchemy 

When emotions like anger, sadness, or fear arise, it’s tempting to suppress or avoid them. Emotional alchemy invites you to transform these feelings into sources of strength, wisdom, and empowerment. This process is deeply connected to your body and requires you to move away from mental narratives and into physical sensations. Emotions are always a portal into your power,  if you’re willing to lean in fully. Whether it’s frustration in dating, resentment in a relationship, or disillusionment with political outcomes, being present with your feelings is the key to transformation.

Do’s and Don’ts for Emotional Alchemy:

• DON’T: Bypass your emotions - Avoiding or numbing your feelings only keeps you stuck.
• DO: Use your emotions as a portal to your power - Be present with your feelings and allow them to guide you toward clarity and healing.
   

Tips & Tools for Emotional Alchemy:

1. Feel it fully: Let go of the labels (e.g., anger, sadness) and focus on the sensations in your body. What does the feeling feel like physically? Breathe into it and let yourself express it fully.
2. Create safe spaces: This practice is for you. Express your emotions in private or with a trusted friend who can hold space without judgment. Avoid directing your emotions at others.
3. Trust the shift: As you lean into your emotions, you’ll notice a natural shift. This creates space for clarity, possibility, and new action steps that align with your desires.

Radical Self-Responsibility

Radical self-responsibility is about fully owning your thoughts, feelings, and actions. It’s the practice of moving beyond victimhood and stepping into your role as the creator of your experience. This isn’t just for personal empowerment, it’s for collective liberation. Pussy desires not only her own thriving but also the thriving of others. When you step into your power, you pave the way for others to do the same.

Do’s and Don’ts for Radical Self-Responsibility:

• DON’T: Blame others for your circumstances - Whether it’s a partner, a dating app, or a political system, shifting the blame keeps you disempowered.
• DO: Take ownership of your experience - While you can’t control others, you can control your response and how you show up.

Tips & Tools for Radical Self-Responsibility:

1. Reclaim your agency: Notice where you’re giving your power away by blaming external factors. Ask yourself: What can I take responsibility for in this situation?
2. Align your inner and outer worlds: Your external reality mirrors your internal state. By embodying trust, peace, or empowerment inside, you’ll begin to see these qualities reflected in your life.
3. Use your power for collective good: Personal empowerment isn’t just about you. When you thrive, you pave the way for others to thrive as well.
   
   

Practical Example: Dating, Relationships, and Politics

These teachings apply to every area of life. Here’s how you can put them into practice:

In Dating: If you’re frustrated by the dating scene, step away from apps and ground into what you truly desire. By focusing inward, you’ll attract experiences that align with your empowered state.

In Relationships: Struggling with unmet needs? Take responsibility for clearly articulating them instead of expecting your partner to read your mind.

In Politics: Feeling overwhelmed post-election? Anchor into your power and contribute to change in ways that align with your values, rather than spiraling into frustration or blame.

No matter what challenges life brings, remember: The power is inside of you. By embracing radical self-responsibility, practicing emotional alchemy, and sourcing your inner power, you can navigate any external circumstance with strength and grace. If you’re ready to reclaim your power and live a desire-led, pleasure-based life, start by turning inward. And if you want deeper support on your journey, check out the School of Pussy-Centered Living.