The Sexiest Love Affair I’ve Ever Had

Today, I want to take you on a journey into one of the most profound and transformative aspects of my life-- my relationship with my inner masculine. I’m talking about the deep, intimate, and oh-so-sexy love affair I’ve cultivated with this part of myself. We're diving into masculine/feminine energetics, healing the masculine, and divine union. So open up your mind, your heart, and your P u s s y, and let’s dive deep into the magic of this work.

Masculine/Feminine Energetics

Before we dive into the healing, let’s get clear on what I mean when I talk about the masculine and the feminine. These are not just gendered terms - they’re archetypal, universal energies that exist within each of us. Think of them as different aspects of the universe that express through everything.

• The Feminine is our *being* energy. She is flow, creativity, emotions, the inward breath, the darkness of the night, the moon, the cyclical nature of the seasons, and everything that’s amorphous and receptive. She is water, she is earth, she is the energy of receiving.
• The Masculine is our *doing* energy. He is structure, direction, integrity, consciousness, the outward breath, the bright sun, the straight lines of action, the protective and giving force. He is air, he is fire, he is the energy of giving.

The feminine and the masculine are meant to dance together while supporting and balancing each other. But let’s be real, loves—we’ve been living in a world that has been out of balance for a long time. For thousands of years, the masculine has been overemphasized, and the feminine has been repressed. This has led to a world where productivity and action are glorified, while rest, pleasure, and creativity are undervalued. And that imbalance affects us deeply, within our own bodies and lives.

That’s why a big part of my work centers around P u s sy and reclaiming her as the seat of our feminine power. But once we’ve done that, we can’t forget about our inner masculine. He’s just as crucial for creating the life we desire.

Healing the Masculine

So, what does it mean to heal the masculine within us? It means reconnecting with this inner presence, transforming the old wounds and imprints we carry from our early relationships with masculine figures, and then inviting the highest expression of the masculine into our lives. If you want to learn more about the what it looks like to tune into our inner masculine, check out this episode: Coaching Session: Healing Trauma, Creating Safety, and Upgrading the Masculine Imprint

Many of us carry wounds around the masculine—deep imprints from our relationships with our fathers, or other male caregivers, that leave us feeling like we can’t trust or receive from the masculine. This might show up as:

• A fear of being supported
• A distrust of men
• An inability to feel safe in our own bodies

These wounds shape how we experience love and relationships, and often lead us to sabotage the very things we desire most. But here's the thing: to heal these wounds, we don’t have to look outside of ourselves. We start with the relationship we have with the masculine inside of us. And when we do this, it can transform every area of our lives, including our ability to receive, our sense of safety, our capacity for deep intimacy, and our flow of abundance.

Here’s a Practice to Begin Healing Your Inner Masculine:

This is a powerful practice I learned from my mentor Layla Martin, and it’s one I share with all of my clients because it’s just that transformational. You’ll need some space, about 20-40 minutes, and four pillows:

1. Set up the Space: Place four pillows in front of you—one to sit on, one off to your left, one directly in front, and one off to your right.
2. Express the Pain: Turn to the pillow on your left. Imagine that your father or male caregiver is sitting on that pillow. Let yourself tap into all the hurt, pain, unmet needs, and unexpressed words you carry. Start by feeling these sensations in your body, then speak them aloud, unfiltered. Let your emotions flow - rage, cry, whatever needs to come out, let it out. It’s okay if it’s messy. This is your time to express what’s been held inside.
3. Express the Love: When that feels complete, turn to the pillow on your right. Imagine your father or male caregiver there again, but this time, tap into the gratitude and love you hold for them. It might feel difficult, and that’s okay. Express any love or appreciation you can, however small it might feel. Let yourself speak these words, or simply feel them in your heart.
4. Invite in the New Masculine: Now, look at the pillow in front of you. Close your eyes and invite the highest version of the masculine energy to come forward. What does he look like? How does he feel? Maybe he’s a tall, strong presence. Maybe he’s an energy of pure love and consciousness. Notice how you feel in his presence.
5. Embodiment and Connection: Sit on the pillow where you see your new masculine energy. Feel yourself becoming him. What qualities do you hold as this masculine presence? What does your feminine self (you) most need? Now, switch back to your original pillow, face your inner masculine, and allow yourself to receive his love, support, and protection. Let him embrace you. Relax into his arms and feel what it’s like to be held by this loving presence.
6. Integrate: Finally, ask your inner masculine where he wants to live inside of you. Feel him come into that space - your heart, your spine, or wherever it feels right. Take a few breaths, allowing this new connection to settle within you.
   
   

This practice can be incredibly moving and deep, so be gentle with yourself. And if you need support with this, I’m here to guide you. Book a free call to see how we can work together.

Divine Union

Let’s talk about divine union, the beautiful alchemy that happens when our inner masculine and feminine come together. This isn’t just about balancing our productivity with rest or finding time for self-care (though that’s important too!). It’s about creating an intimate, loving, and sexy relationship between these parts of ourselves.

Divine union is about letting the inner masculine hold space for the feminine to fully express herself, to flow, to feel, to create, and to be. It’s about allowing the feminine to feel safe and supported, so she can melt into her pleasure and radiance. And from this place, the masculine gets to love in his fullest capacity, to give, to provide, to hold, to penetrate with his unwavering presence.

When we cultivate this inner relationship, it transforms the way we experience life. It’s what allows us to attract the partners, the opportunities, and the miracles we desire. It’s what helps us feel grounded and safe, while still allowing ourselves to be wildly creative and free. It’s the foundation of living a life that’s fully turned on, inside and out.

Practice for Cultivating Divine Union:

After doing the inner masculine healing practice, I recommend taking time each morning to connect with this inner union. Here’s a simple practice you can try:

1. Morning Connection: Close your eyes and call on your inner masculine. Feel him standing behind you, strong and supportive, his arms wrapped around you. Let yourself relax into his embrace. Feel the safety of being held.
2. Invite Pleasure: Once you feel held, let yourself tune into your feminine essence. Where does pleasure live in your body today? Is it a soft warmth in your heart, a tingle in your pussy, or a feeling of lightness in your chest? Allow yourself to feel that pleasure and let it expand.
3. Union Visualization: Visualize your masculine and feminine energies coming together, dancing in harmony. Maybe it’s an in-breath and out-breath, a wave flowing into the shore. Let yourself feel
   
   

This journey into the realms of masculine/feminine energetics, healing the masculine, and divine union is such a powerful one. It’s not always easy, but the rewards are beyond worth it. When you heal your relationship with your inner masculine, you open yourself up to deeper love, support, and abundance in ways you may never have thought possible. And when you allow that healed masculine to dance with your empowered feminine, you create a union that radiates out into every area of your life, from your relationships to your creativity to your ability to receive all that the universe has to offer.

This work is about so much more than just balancing energy - it’s about creating a life that feels deeply pleasurable, sustainable, and aligned with who you truly are. It’s about feeling safe to shine, to create, to love, and to live in the full expression of your radiant self.

So, I invite you to start these practices, to connect with your own inner masculine, and to let yourself explore what divine union feels like within you. Let this love affair be one that takes you to new heights of pleasure and connection—both with yourself and with the world around you. And remember, you don’t have to do it alone. I’m here to support you every step of the way. Book a free call to see how we can work together!