Tantra of Money: Embracing Abundance, Pleasure, and Worthiness with Isabel Lamar

Are you ready to transform your relationship with money into one that's filled with pleasure, abundance, and endless deliciousness? Join us today as we dive deep into the connection between money, Eros, and pleasure with Somatic Sexuality and Women's Empowerment Coach, Isabel Lamar. Together, we explore the concept of worthiness around money, how to cultivate a liberated and turned-on relationship with money by treating it like a lover, and embracing the power of turned-on receiving and spending. Isabel shares practical, pleasure-based practices to help shift from anxiety or avoidance around money to a relationship rooted in love and empowerment. Plus, I reflect on how healing my relationship with the masculine has been a crucial part of my own financial transformation.

The Tantra of Money: Treating Money as a Juicy AF Relationship

If you’re like most people, your relationship with money might be stressful or just plain "blah". But what if you started to treat money like a lover? Imagine approaching your relationship with money with intimacy, care, and honor - and instead of avoiding it or getting anxious, you allow money to be a source of turn on. When you bring Eros, your life force energy, into your financial world, miracles start flowing.

Isabel shared that the way we feel about money creates our reality around it. Money responds to how we treat it. Are we avoiding looking at our accounts out of fear, or are we approaching money like a lover we want to spend time with? Every dollar can become an opportunity to connect with abundance. This shift in mindset invites us to bring more mindfulness and even sensuality into our financial life. And when we do that, we open ourselves up to limitless potential and possibilities.

Key practices for treating money like a relationship:

• Celebrate even small amounts of money received (like finding a dollar or receiving a refund).
• Shift from anxiety to gratitude during financial transactions.
• Approach money with pleasure, as if you're inviting it into your life with love.
   

Healing the Inner Masculine and Feminine Around Money

One of the juiciest parts of our conversation was about healing the masculine and feminine energies within ourselves to shift our relationship with money. Isabel shared how money often feels like the physical embodiment of masculine energy, giving us structure, while abundance is feminine - limitless, flowing, and full of potential. These two energies need to work together for us to receive, hold, and expand our financial lives.

This inner balance is crucial because, without structure, the feminine flow can become chaotic. On the other hand, if we’re too focused on structure and control, we block the flow of abundance. I love how Isabel highlighted that women who are naturally creative and tapped into their feminine energy often resist structure, but adding that structure is what allows abundance to truly flow. And for those who are more in their masculine, it’s about softening into pleasure and trust. The dance between the two is where the magic happens.

Key ways to balance the inner masculine and feminine with money:

• Create structures, like budgeting or setting clear financial goals, that support your feminine flow.
• Allow pleasure and creativity to guide your financial decisions, not just logic.
• Cultivate trust in the masculine (whether through your business, a partner, or the universe) to support you in receiving abundance.
  
  

Practical Practices for Embodying Pleasure with Money

Isabel is all about practical, turned-on ways to shift our energy around money. One of my favorite juicy practices was the idea of turned-on receiving and turned-on spending. When you receive money, even the smallest amount, allow yourself to fully feel the pleasure. Feel the aliveness in your body, in your Pussy, and celebrate it. It’s not just about the number - it’s about the energy exchange.

We often avoid looking at our finances or rush through transactions, but Isabel encouraged us to slow down and bring awareness into every exchange. Even paying bills can be a pleasurable experience if we reframe it as an opportunity to honor what money is providing us. Whether it’s the warmth of your home, food on your table, or investing in a mentor, can you feel the turn-on of how money is supporting your life? Isabel’s wisdom reminds us that bringing presence into our financial life can completely shift our experience of abundance. The tantra of money also means being fully with "what is". If you find that you are experiencing discomfort, sink into that and allow the emotions to come up around it as well. It is not only about fully feeling pleasure, but honoring all that is present. 

Ways to embody pleasure with money:

• When receiving money, pause and feel the excitement, no matter how small the amount.
• Celebrate what your spending gives you, whether it’s nourishment, warmth, or growth.
• Pay attention to any avoidance or anxiety and shift it to gratitude by acknowledging what money is doing for you in that moment.
  
  

Worthiness and Deservingness of Money

One thing that comes up for so many of us around money is this sense of unworthiness. Am I really deserving of financial abundance? Should I feel guilty for having money when others don’t? This is such a common wound, but it’s one we can heal through deeper somatic work. In our chat, Isabel and I got real about how these feelings of unworthiness can show up in sneaky ways - maybe it’s undercharging for your services, avoiding your finances, or feeling like money will slip away once you have it.

When we don't feel worthy of money, we unconsciously push it away. Isabel shared that worthiness is something we can practice. It’s about noticing those small moments where we do feel good about receiving or holding money, and amplifying that energy. For me, it’s about going back to memories where I felt shamed around money and doing the work to heal those experiences. As we do this, we open ourselves to receive, hold, and spend money with ease and joy.

Steps to cultivate worthiness and deservingness with money:

• Reflect on moments where you’ve received money with joy and gratitude, no matter how small.
• Work on healing past money wounds through somatic practices that allow you to release shame and fear.
• Surround yourself with people and communities who celebrate your financial success and growth, reinforcing your sense of worthiness.
  
  

Money doesn’t have to be something we dread or stress over. When we bring Eros, pleasure, and deep healing into our financial lives, we create a new relationship with abundance—one that feels rich, juicy, and aligned with who we truly are. Check out Isabel's program "Tantra of Money" to learn + embody more of this info!