Exploring Healthy Emotional Expression

When it comes to our emotions, we are so quick to judge which ones we deem negative. The truth is, no emotion is good or bad, they are all an essential and beautiful part of our human experience. Join me today as I share how you can process your emotions in healthy and integrative ways to begin to feel all 88 keys of your emotional piano – because the more range of tone you play in your song, the more soul-touching experience you will have throughout life.

I also explore why we need to process our emotions through our body’s sensations, the importance of accepting all parts of ourselves, and a personal story of how I released my people-pleasing mask + started to embrace my primal power through an emotional expression experience. I also give you a simple (yet potent) practice you can use today to process your emotions! 

The Essence of Pussy-Centered Living

Pussy and our sexuality are often associated with pleasure, but to fully embrace that pleasure, we must be willing to experience the entire spectrum of our emotions. It’s impossible to genuinely feel joy, ecstasy, or bliss without also opening ourselves up to emotions like anger, sadness, grief, and shame. We’ve been conditioned to judge our emotions, labeling some as acceptable and others as negative, but the truth is, emotions simply exist. They are an integral part of the human experience and by allowing ourselves to feel them all, we open ourselves up to a more juicy and expansive life.

As Mama Gena beautifully puts it, we need to feel all 88 keys of our emotional piano to truly experience the depth of life. When we repress certain emotions, we don’t just turn down those specific feelings, we dull our entire emotional range, including pleasure + bliss. To unlock the full beauty of our emotions, we must be willing to feel them all. This requires a willingness to:

• Dive into sensations
• Process our emotions through our bodies
• Recognize that our emotional experiences are deeply intertwined with our nervous system’s felt sense

The limbic brain, which governs our emotions, doesn’t distinguish between turning down anger or turning up joy – it’s either all on or all off. Emotional expression is crucial for unlocking the full range of pleasure, bliss, and ecstasy in our lives. By embracing and expressing our emotions, we signal to our nervous system that it is safe to feel, allowing us to cultivate the emotional experiences we truly desire.

Emotional expression liberates us and frees up energy in our nervous system by dissolving old patterns, traumas, and repressed emotions that take energy to hold. When we allow ourselves to express emotions in healthy, integrative ways, we clear space in our nervous system. This practice not only helps us release the weight of limiting beliefs and trauma but also empowers us to fill ourselves with the emotions we want to feel, leading to a more vibrant + Pussy-centered life.

The 3 Parts of Our Brains - The Cortex, Limbic Brain, and Primal Brain

To truly understand healing and transformation, it's essential to understand how our brain functions. The brain can be divided into three key parts:

• The cortex: Located at the top of the head, is the thinking, conscious part of your brain responsible for logic and reasoning.
• The limbic brain: Located under the cortex. This part governs our emotions.
• The primal brain: Located deep within our brain and is the seat of our unconscious and subconscious mind. This is where our belief systems, conditioning, and traumas reside.

When it comes to healing, empowerment, and shifting our reality, it's the primal brain we need to access. But because the limbic brain sits above the primal brain, we must first navigate through our emotions to reach these deeper, more transformative parts of ourselves. Our conscious, thinking brain (the cortex) is not equipped to heal us on it’s own. Talk therapy can provide valuable insights and understanding but it doesn't penetrate the subconscious layers where true transformation occurs.

This is why working with the body and emotions is so important. Through somatic practices that engage the primal brain and emotional processing, we can begin to release limiting beliefs and heal deep-seated traumas. This deeper work is what allows for lasting change and the creation of a life that truly aligns with our desires. Understanding and embracing this approach is vital for anyone on the path to a more thriving, delicious, and authentic human experience.

The Impact of Emotional Expression on Stress Cycles

Understanding how emotional expression helps complete stress cycles in the nervous system is crucial for healing shock + trauma. A stress cycle is our body's natural protection system that kicks in when we perceive danger, triggering responses like fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. These responses are fueled by hormones like adrenaline and cortisol, preparing us to deal with the threat. Ideally, after the threat has passed, the stress cycle completes and no trauma remains in the nervous system. But if the cycle does not complete, the unresolved stress can become trapped in the body.

The key takeaway is that by engaging in healthy emotional expression, we can help our bodies complete these stress cycles, even ones from the past that may have been interrupted. This process of fully experiencing and expressing our emotions allows us to release the shock and trauma held in our nervous system, leading to deeper healing and emotional freedom.

Exploring Healthy Emotional Expression

Let’s get clear on what healthy and integrative emotional expression really looks like: 

• On one end of the spectrum, we have repression which is pushing emotions down and denying them space.
• On the opposite end, we can get caught up in the drama of our emotions, where instead of moving through them, we get stuck, overwhelmed by the intensity of what we’re feeling. 

Neither one of these extremes serves us. What we need is a balanced, centered approach that allows us to feel our emotions, honor them, and let them move through us without getting stuck.

Healthy emotional expression involves experiencing emotions as sensations in the body. When feelings like anger, sadness, or shame arise, instead of just thinking about them, we need to drop into our body and feel where those emotions live within us. It’s about moving away from the narrative or story in our head and tuning into the physical sensations associated with the emotion. This practice helps prevent us from getting caught in a loop of unprocessed emotions and instead, allows us to integrate the experience.

Once we’ve connected with these sensations, the next step is to express them through the body’s natural impulses, whether that’s through:

• Movement: Move your body move in a way that feels natural (like kicking or punching)
• Sound: Allow a sound to escape as you follow the emotions through you
• Breath: Change your pattern of breathing to release emotions like having a deep exhale

By honoring these impulses, we allow those stress cycles to complete. This process is your body’s innate wisdom at work, guiding you toward deeper healing. Being a Pussy-centered queen means embracing the full spectrum of your emotional reality. This willingness to engage with your emotions on a deep, physical level doesn’t just heal past wounds – it creates space in your nervous system for more pleasure, bliss, and joy. And we all want more of that, right?

The Importance of Somatic Healing

I’ve always been deeply committed to diving into my emotions and processing them fully, and let me tell you, the transformation and pleasure that come from doing this work are nothing short of magical. A few months ago, during the final stretch of my launch for The School of Pussy Centered Living, I found myself feeling blocked in bringing in new students. Despite having so many amazing returning students, I wanted to help so many other humans. 

So, I reached out to my dear friend and phenomenal coach, Cathy Walker, for a session to uncover and move through whatever was holding me back. During our session, we dove deep into my subconscious. As I was guided by the sensations in my body, I was taken back to a moment in my early childhood when I had unconsciously decided to put on a people-pleasing mask to be loved and accepted by my mother. As I allowed myself to feel the emotions I had repressed for so long like:

• Anger
• Sadness
• The pain of not being able to express my true self

I began to release them. Through deep sobbing and even embodying a primal, jaguar-like energy, I accessed a powerful part of myself that had been locked away for years. This was a reclamation of my Jaguar Pussy Queen identity, a deeper, more authentic layer of myself.

The effects of this session were profound and immediate. Not only did new students start signing up for the school almost instantly, but I also experienced a significant shift in my energy levels and overall well-being. I realized that part of my previous low energy was tied to an unconscious rejection of my own perceived failures. By embracing and loving that part of myself, I unlocked a new level of vitality and creativity that has continued to bless my life in countless ways.

This experience reaffirmed the importance of emotional expression and the deep healing that comes from fully feeling and processing our emotions. It’s not just about the release, it’s about reclaiming the power that lies beneath those emotions. I share this story to encourage you to trust in the process, to feel your emotions as they arise, and to express them in healthy, integrative ways. And remember, emotional work is deeply personal, it’s about your relationship with yourself, not something to project onto others.

This journey of emotional alchemy is one of the most powerful paths to living a fully embodied + Pussy-centered life.

Integrating Emotional Expression into Your Daily Life

Healthy emotional expression is not about getting lost in the drama of your feelings or lashing out at others. It’s about finding a balanced approach where you honor your emotions, allow them to move through you, and then integrate the lessons they bring. This practice not only helps to clear emotional blockages but also enhances your ability to experience the emotions you desire, such as joy, peace, and pleasure.

One simple yet powerful tool for integrating emotional expression into your daily life is a process I call “FEEFing.” This acronym stands for Feel, Embody, Express, and Fill up. It’s a structured way to guide yourself through the process of emotional alchemy:

1. Feel: Start by tuning into the sensations in your body. Notice where the emotion is residing and what it feels like.
2. Embody: Allow your body to take on a posture or movement that reflects what you’re feeling. This helps you connect more deeply with the emotion.
3. Express: Use your voice, breath, or physical movements to express the emotion. This could be anything from a deep sigh to a full-on primal scream – whatever feels authentic to you.
4. Fill up: After expressing the emotion, invite in the feeling you want to cultivate, whether it’s peace, joy, or pleasure. Allow this new feeling to fill the space you’ve just cleared in your nervous system.
    

By regularly practicing FEEFing, you create a powerful shift in how you experience your emotions, leading to greater emotional freedom and a more Pussy-centered life.

Embracing the Fullness of Your Pussy-Centered Journey

Living a Pussy-centered life means embracing the full spectrum of who you are. It’s about honoring your emotions, allowing yourself to feel everything deeply, and trusting that even the most challenging feelings are here to guide you towards your true power. This journey isn’t always easy, but it is deeply rewarding.

As you continue on this path, remember that you are not alone. Whether you’re just beginning to explore Pussy-centered living or you’ve been on this journey for a while, know that there is a community of like-minded souls here to support you. And if you’re ready to dive deeper, consider joining the School of Pussy-Centered Living (enrollment only opens once a year!), where we go even further into these practices and principles.